It’s a known secret that most couples therapists have marriages with normal struggles and it’s very hard to “do our models” in our own marriages. In The Doherty Approach, we don’t hold therapists and their spouses to perfectionistic standards. We teach what we practice in our own marriages. We don’t have guilt for not being
Historically the field was patriarchal. Male therapists were known to call husbands to share the work going on with the wife. Women were hysterical, too emotional, etc. Time has advanced and now we have flipped the script. It’s casually easy to say that men who show up are “on the spectrum” because they don’t speak
Most case consults present a struggle between the therapist and one or both spouses who aren’t buying what we’re saying or are otherwise not on board with our approach. In The Doherty Approach we don’t see that as a crisis but as a moment to stop, engage the client, reconnect, and renegotiate what “we are
This is a multi-decade rant that too many therapists “decide” an individual there for marriage counseling is not “ready” for the work because they have too many individual problems. This means they go back home with the exact same marital problems! The “referred” individual may or may not be interested in personal therapy and even
The Doherty Approach is more of a primary care model where two people show up, usually one is really not super excited to be there, and we can quickly build traction by addressing the complaints and goals each spouse has. We can help them shift very quickly from complaint to action; assessing and treatment go
In The Doherty Approach we can create an important two-way and three-way relationship with therapist and each spouse alongside the therapist’s relationship with the couple as a marital unit. Transparency and leadership in this way can help couples feel well-supported in improving their marital dynamics in the room.