A Bill Doherty multi-decade long rant is finally on video.Simply put, too many couples therapists give up on motivated couples, coming to improve their marriages, because the therapist can’t handle the impairment of one spouse. He shares the very rare times he would refuse to do couples therapy.Those who love differentiation will appreciate the priority
In The Doherty Approach we think that couples bring a broader array of interactional patterns and outside stressors than current models emphasize–and that therapists need a way to prioritize what to work first, and then next, with multi-problem couples.The Family FIRO Model does all of this. For therapists who love attachment, it’s in this model
Highly experienced couples therapists learn, through clinical trial and error, how to prioritize goals in couples therapy–where to begin when there are lot of problems.Our couples therapy field, however, lacks explicit models for priority setting. Your couples work will be smoother and more effective if you know which problems to start with and why.
We want to shine more light on a pretty invisible part of what causes marriages great stress: external stressors.Sometimes both individuals have them but more often one person is being hit hard. These external stressors could be an aging parent, a really high stress job, a difficult in-law.It’s not enough, in our view, to just
This video includes a mantra Bill repeats often.It’s foundational to the balance between confidence in our ability to help couples and humility about how much we can really identify the many possible reasons the couple got to the point they needed couples therapy.
Do you know the 3 areas that need to change for couples to report success in couples therapy?Watch this short video to learn what they are and ponder how you emphasize one, two, or all three. If you are an expert in one dimension of change and your couples are still struggling, with the assumption