A Bill Doherty multi-decade long rant is finally on video.
Simply put, too many couples therapists give up on motivated couples, coming to improve their marriages, because the therapist can’t handle the impairment of one spouse. He shares the very rare times he would refuse to do couples therapy.
Those who love differentiation will appreciate the priority around boundary setting and personal agency we assume both people. Neither spouse is given the ability in our offices to mind-read each other or therapize the other.
Our approach ensures both people are coming up with agendas in every session. Both sign up for personal work, in order to not imbalance the couples therapy with one “client” and their spouse acting like a co-therapist.