Rant: Viewing a Spouse as Individually Impaired Before Being Capable of Marriage CounselingThis is a multi-decade rant that too many therapists “decide” an individual there for marriage counseling is not “ready” for the work because they have too many individual problems. This means they go... Watch the Video
Moving Faster Than Multi-Session AssessmentsThe Doherty Approach is more of a primary care model where two people show up, usually one is really not super excited to be there, and we can quickly build traction by addressing the complaints and g... Watch the Video
The Benefit of Guilt in Couples TherapyAs a field, we have neglected to focus on the positive side of guilt as it shows someone how they’ve hurt their spouse. We often confuse guilt and shame. ... Watch the Video
Finding Leverage in Couples Therapy: Ask What They Want to Work OnToo often sessions focus on what the therapist thinks is important, and the couple are not with us. Instead, in The Doherty Approach, we ask both spouses what they want to accomplish.... Watch the Video
Accept That Which Won’t Change in Couples TherapyWe’re very change oriented, but Andrew Christensen’s highly evidence-based model supports the idea of acceptance in the last phase of couples therapy. Particularly unchanging variables.... Watch the Video
Addressing Contempt In Couples Therapy In a Relational WayAs therapists, we learn to jump on contempt as bad behavior, and focus on it as an individual flaw in the “contemptor and immediate empathy for the one being contempted on. This ignores a lot.... Watch the Video
