Hard vs Soft Problems And Why They MatterHistorically the “hard” problems leading to divorce were affairs, abuse, and addictions. Those fundamentally compromise personal and relational well-being. The “soft” problems (growing apart, arguing ... Watch the Video
We Have a Gap as Couples Therapists (We are Regular People, too!)It’s a known secret that most couples therapists have marriages with normal struggles and it’s very hard to “do our models” in our own marriages. In The Doherty Approach, we don’t hold therapists and ... Watch the Video
Therapy Used to be Female-Deficit… Now Male DeficitHistorically the field was patriarchal. Male therapists were known to call husbands to share the work going on with the wife. Women were hysterical, too emotional, etc. Time has advanced and now we ha... Watch the Video
Tough Couple Presentation Around a Medical Crisis (Behavioral vs Emotional Lens)This video is about a particular type of couple where they come in with one who had a serious medical issue. Either a behavioral or emotional lens offers some great support, but either approach may ig... Watch the Video
We Don’t Focus Enough On Therapists Individual Relationships With Each Individual SpouseMost case consults present a struggle between the therapist and one or both spouses who aren’t buying what we’re saying or are otherwise not on board with our approach. ... Watch the Video
Eager Beaver and Turtle Couples TherapyThis colorful type of couple is really a trap. The eager beaver is very motivated for the couples therapy and the turtle is quiet, nervous, or disengaged. ... Watch the Video
