Three Blindspots In Couples Therapy As A FieldCouple relationships are always more than a dyad, yet the couples therapy models only train therapists that way. Without a multisystemic lens, it's easy to ignore complex stepfamily problems, current ... Watch the Video
“Session Hygiene” in Couples Therapy Makes the Work More Enjoyable and Beneficial For EveryoneTherapists often let a lot of negative behavior (like interruptions and mind reading) slide in couples sessions and then end up stressed, reactive or negative about one or both spouses, rather than cl... Watch the Video
Never Assume a Pursue/Distancer Pattern Before Answering These Two QuestionsYou will get a mini-rant in this public video that reinforces why in our approach, interaction patterns are never individual dysfunction or deficits, but much more likely to be contextual to specific ... Watch the Video
Challenging A Spouse Who Isn’t Seeing Their DestructivenessTherapists vary in how they challenge, but we think there aren't enough skills being taught in doing so effectively, especially when someone is being destructive. This video offers a specific way to c... Watch the Video
The Therapeutic Alliance is Not Just Being Nice and RespectfulThis video gives you a new set of tools to consider whether you have a real working alliance with your couples, such as do you get nods versus "yes, but..." To learn more, watch this short video.... Watch the Video
Rant: History Gathering Can Drain the Couples Therapy (Versus Starting to Treat Current Negative Interactions)We wanted to share this video as another reminder of why, in our approach, we're always aware of the three-way system and how for the spouse who isn't that interested in their individual past, we can ... Watch the Video
