The Subtle and Vital Concept of Power in Couples TherapySome models don't see power as an important element in couple relationships. This includes attachment oriented therapies. Other models think of power as who has more. We focus on two kinds powers in c... Watch the Video
Rethinking the Pursue/Withdraw PatternIts original use was systemic but it's morphed into an individual assessments with two impaired individuals. If we do that, we tilt the therapy towards "fixing" the more impaired person. Learn more by... Watch the Video
Rant: Blaming a Client for Bad Couples TherapyThere are two main factors in failed couples therapy can fail: the therapist wasn't the right fit or the three-way system doesn't gain traction within a few sessions. Our approach helps end stalled th... Watch the Video
A Toxic Dynamic of One Spouse Saying “I Carry the Emotional Load for This Marriage”Buying into this is a mistake that our approach avoids by offering new ways to get through to both individuals who are actively contributing to a negative marital dynamic. Learn more by watching this ... Watch the Video
Pulled Towards a More Difficult (To Us) Spouse and Unbalance the Couples TherapyIf we have one spouse who isn't as easy to engage, we can easily lose sight of two active contributors and focus in on just that one spouses problems or "resistance"-- or whatever label we use in case... Watch the Video
Multi Problem Couples Are At the Mercy of the TherapistMost models do not have a way to prioritize problems, which can lead to poor outcomes. We offer a theory-based way to create immediate to set priorities for change. Watch this video to learn more abou... Watch the Video
